It’s been more than a year since my relationship with her went sour. I am not talking about final goodbye, it’s about the time when relationship started moving southward.
Those were the times when I started reading Self-help books and articles. I read a lot of books, from Robin Sharma to Eckhart Tolle, Vedanta and what not. After hundreds of blog post and articles, neither my relationship improved nor my overall life situation. But my efforts are not wasted entirely. I won’t say that things are making much sense even now, but I have certainly realized few things.Those books and articles has given me a different perspective.
Law of attraction is sweeping the self help websites currently. I found the concept interesting. I found the same thing in Swami Vivekananda teachings also. It means that the Advait Vedanta also supports it. Steve Pavlina is a famous blogger in Self Help Circuit. In his article he made a interesting point- The Law of Attraction brings you what you think about. To think is to ask. Every thought is an intention. The Law of Attraction is totally neutral — it doesn’t filter what you ask for. If you think about what you want, you get it. If you think about what you don’t want, you get that too. Mostly we spent our time thinking what we do not from life rather then what we want from it. At least, I was like this before.
Other things which is now very clear to me is KARMA- According to Swami Vivekananda : Karma in its effect on character is the most tremendous power that man has to deal with. Man is, as it were, a centre, and is attracting all the powers of the universe towards himself, and in this centre is fusing them all and again sending them off in a big current. Such a centre is the real man — the almighty, the omniscient — and he draws the whole universe towards him. Good and bad, misery and happiness, all are running towards him and clinging round him; and out of them he fashions the mighty stream of tendency called character and throws it outwards. As he has the power of drawing in anything, so has he the power of throwing it out.
No one can get anything unless he earns it. This is an eternal law. We may sometimes think it is not so, but in the long run we become convinced of it. A man may struggle all his life for riches; he may cheat thousands, but he finds at last that he did not deserve to become rich, and his life becomes a trouble and a nuisance to him. We may go on accumulating things for our physical enjoyment, but only what we earn is really ours. A fool may buy all the books in the world, and they will be in his library; but he will be able to read only those that he deserves to; and this deserving is produced by Karma. Our Karma determines what we deserve and what we can assimilate. We are responsible for what we are; and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. If what we are now has been the result of our own past actions, it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in future can be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act.
Third and most important thing I have understood is power of showing utmost devotion to almighty. Complete surrender to his will without showing “unnecessary inquisitiveness” work wonders. I am doing JAPA regularly and I am trying to understand why we Hindus have so many rituals and why they are needed. We will get result according to our devotion. The line is thin, because most of the time when we pray, we give a demand list to god and ask him to fullfill our wishes. Shirdi SAI Baba teaches us SHRADDHA AND SABURI, faith and patience, that’s what we need.
If i had known THEN what i know NOW, life would be very different. I am thankful to the circumstances that lead me to traverse this path.